The pitfalls of permissive education

I am sure that when you became a new parent you too said, “My child will certainly not be spoilt, but will obey and be diligent”, whereas today you are facing the problem of establishing the right authority and want to establish some order. V 21. Permissive education is on the rise in the 2000s, and this is reflected in children’s later life, functioning and behaviour. There are several ways to educate, for example authoritarian, authoritative or permissive. In permissive parenting, parents naturally love their children, but they put very few limits on them, give them permission, give them no direction, and in this way lose their authority. But authority is crucial throughout the education process. It is important that the child knows where his or her limits lie, that he or she establishes a parental rather than a friendly relationship with his or her parent, and that he or she knows explicitly what is expected of him or her. Rule no. 1 in parenting is to always keep in mind that all children express their thoughts, feelings and needs through their behaviour.

So what are the pitfalls of permissive parenting and what can we do about it?

If we don’t want our children to absorb all the weaknesses of permissive parenting and thus become undemanding of themselves, disrespectful of others, too demanding, and have no sense of their fellow human beings, then it is important to set boundaries from the very beginning of their upbringing, and to praise or reprimand them when they act in certain ways. Children must learn to accept failure, to accept that they make mistakes, because only this leads to successful learning and the building of a stable self-image.

It is important to praise the child in every situation, whether he succeeds or fails – because if we scold him for failure, he will acquire a fear of failure. At the same time, we must not forget that the quest for perfection must be avoided. Perfection leads to too high expectations, which can be very destructive for children if they fail.

Another very important indicator of permissive parenting – going to the shops with your child. The child combs it lengthways and lengthways and comes to you with a toy or several of his choice, saying he would like to have them. When you refuse, he starts screaming, crying and suddenly you feel embarrassed and give in, leaving the shop with a few new toys. But how to deal with it? When your child starts picking out toys, tell him that that’s not why you’ve come to the shop, you’ve come for groceries. When he starts crying or whining, leave him alone and ignore him until it passes. This way, the child will see that he or she is not being noticed and will stop the behaviour.

Next time, you could make a deal with your child before you go to the shop – once a month, give them a new toy that you think will be educational and educational for them. E.g. Piqipi Interactive Quiet Book. Your child will respect your decision and, above all, will appreciate each new toy.

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